We were in the shoe section at Dillard's, and I was sitting down for a rest while my mom tried on some heels.
An older woman came up to me and said, "Smile honey it's not that bad!" I smiled at her. She then asked, "When are you due?" I replied, "Oh, next week." to which she said, "Well! You sure do look like it!" She then proceed to laugh and say, "You look soooo miserable."
I was about to punch her. Then, she adds to my irritation by saying that I looked so sad and that she was just trying to cheer me up!
Cheer me up? You think cheering up a 9 months pregnant person by commenting on how miserable and pregnant they look is going to get the job done?
Mom and I then went to the Coach store to look around. All of the ladies that greeted us could not take their eyes off my belly. One girl even had a slightly confused look on her face.
Have you never seen a pregnant woman before? Maybe it was because I wasn't wearing my wedding ring. They probably thought I was some irresponsible teen that got knocked up and was having to be taken care of by mommy. Well newsflash folks, one day when you are pregnant in the middle of August and are swollen and puffy, you won't feel like wearing much jewelry either. And even if you felt like it, sometimes you just can't because, well, it doesn't fit.
Not only that, but a woman in the Coach store thought that upon my answering her question of when I was due would be a perfect invitation to launch into a tangent about her daughter and how OH SO BIG she got when she was pregnant, and now just one month after having the baby this woman told her daughter to get a personal trainer because she has no "motivation" to get skinny again. Like no motivation to do anything after pushing a watermelon through a mouse hole is a bad thing.
If I were to see a slightly uncomfortable pregnant woman in a store, I would not go up to her and make such comments or gestures. I would ask when is she due and wish her luck, but that's it. Plain and simple, keep my mouth shut.
I really don't understand what goes through people's head's sometimes. Pregnancy is a naturally occurring thing, and I don't think it is anyone's business to pass judgement or make comments that, although the giver may think are innocuous, can be very hurtful to a pregnant woman. I am tired, in pain, hormonal, and I just saw my backend in a dressing room for the first time in 8 months and wanted to bawl my eyes out. I don't want to be reminded of all of this by your inane comments, random stranger.
We all need to be a little more sensitive to the condition of others.
whew....ok....rant over...
1 comment:
you totally crack me up! oh the insensitivity of people! I can't believe that woman thought her daughter lacked motivation! Holy crow, I'd hate to hear what she'd say to me! She's have me committed for being a fatty fatty! Obviously, some things are more important to others than the process of bringing life into the world. Honey, don't you worry about your backside! There is nothing more beautiful in this world than a pregnant woman! Those hormones can make you feel things you'd never would've thought you'd feel, so please be gentle on yourself, especially the first 3 months after your baby is here! It takes a long time to start feeling normal again! Best of luck!
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